You are what you think

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All of our feelings, beliefs and knowledge are based on our internal thoughts, both conscious and subconscious. We are in control, whether we know it or not. We must always aim high and do your best. We can be positive or negative, enthusiastic or dull, active or passive. Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be. The biggest difference between people is their attitudes. For some, learning is enjoyable and exciting. For others, learning is a drudgery. For many, learning is just okay, something required on the road to a job.

Our present attitudes are habits, built from the feedback of parents, friends, society and self, that form our self-image and our world-image. These attitudes are maintained by the inner conversations we constantly have with ourselves, both consciously and subconsciously.

The first step in changing our attitudes is to change our inner conversations. One must make a positive commitment to oneself, to learning, work, family, friends, nature, and other worthwhile causes. Praise yourself and others. Dream of success. Be enthusiastic.

Just do your best and don’t look back. See learning and change as opportunities. Try new things. Consider several options. Meet new people. Ask lots of questions. Keep track of your mental and physical health. Be optimistic.

Remember, you are what you think, you feel what you want.

The real job of Moms

Aira    Featured Post     daughter, feelings, Happiness, Love, mother job, parenting, Parents, real job of mother, son, teenagers

It’s not cooking dinner, changing diapers or helping a preschooler glue colored macaroni on a coffee can as a Father’s Day gift.

The most important assignment a mom has is to nurture her children.

But what does that mean, exactly? Most of us have a vague notion about what being nurtured feels like, but here are a few specifics.

A nurturing mom goes beyond being the “maintenance person” in a child’s life. She doesn’t just keep a child clean, fed, warm, and dry. She also helps enable her children to develop fully by pouring life into them. She models joy and passion. Nurturing is filling your child up with aliveness.

A nurturing mom takes time to play, read, and take pictures when the toddler’s spaghetti ends up on the head instead of in the mouth. She enters the child’s world to see things from his or her perspective, even if it means the carpets don’t get vacuumed for a while. She provides empathetic understanding from a position of strength and support. That’s true whether she’s dealing with a toddler or a teen — except for the part about spaghetti on the head.

Like dads, though, moms have a natural urge to protect their children. That can lead them to cross the line between nurturing and futile attempts at control.

You can’t control the results, but you can stir in the right ingredients. You can seek to know your children as individuals, different as they might be, and bring out the best in each. You can demonstrate by example how to explore life with zest and express the unique gifts God provides each of us. Your nurturing can blossom in emotional and spiritual growth.

Before you feel burdened with a mile-long list you can never follow through on, let me be quick to say that nurturing is not about “doing it all” or doing it perfectly. It’s about doing the best you can — without losing yourself or driving yourself crazy because your own needs aren’t taken care of. You won’t be able to nurture your children if you’re exhausted from burning the candle at both ends.

So please take care of yourself, too. You need aliveness in order to pass it on to your teenagers.

The real job of Dads

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Do you know what is the real job of Dads? A dad’s primary, underlying job isn’t control. It’s to validate every one of his children. It means to let your child know over and over and over, through words and actions, that this is true,  “Hey, you exist and you matter to me.”,  “You’re good enough.”, “You’re an okay kid.”

It’s the idea that children get their earliest, most lasting impressions of who they are from what’s reflected back to them by their parents. These impressions become those “records” in the jukebox of your child’s brain.

Validation doesn’t mean lying. It doesn’t mean telling me, “Great game, son!” when I really played poorly.  Just as validation has nothing to do with control, it has no relation to being a “softie” as a parent. You can be firm and strong and still validate your child. It means acknowledging your son or daughter, certifying his or her existence, affirming the person apart from the not-so-good performance.

Some fathers go to the opposite extreme, withholding validation when kids don’t “measure up.” Our culture is so conditional in its validation — affirming only those who’ve won fame or fortune, or been born (or surgically assisted) with “good” looks — that the same approach often creeps into our parenting. It’s easy for a man to validate a good performance; it takes a lot more time and energy to see and value the human being in the absence of any performance and put it into words.

A dad’s biggest job is to relinquish that kind of control and affirm that the existence of each of his children, with or without any great (or poor) performance, is acceptable. If you’re a father, recognize that each of your children is worthy of being alive. You may know that, but each of your children needs to hear it from you.

Value that child as a person, even when disciplining an action or attitude. Make sure your child knows he or she is good enough for you. Otherwise, when that tree falls in the forest, the silence will be deafening.  The best time to begin validating is the day you bring your baby home from the hospital. Parenting a teenager begins when he or she is born.

When he or she is born. Really.  But it’s never too late to start. Do it often enough to cut a record in your teen’s jukebox that says, “I’m okay. I’m good enough.” If you can do that, trying to compensate with control won’t be such a temptation.

Girl who doesn’t age

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I recently read a very surprising news and I wanna share with you guys. It is about an American girl who doesn’t age and it may hold key to ageing. American scientists are keenly studying the DNA of a 17-year-old girl who still has the body and behaviour of a baby, hoping to gain new insights into the mysteries of ageing.

At 16lb in weight and just 30in tall, her name is Brooke Greenberg who is still the size of a one-year-old.

According to a preliminary study of her DNA, her failure to grow could be linked to defects in the genes that make the rest of humanity grow old.

According to the times, if confirmed, the research could give scientists a fresh understanding of ageing and even suggest new therapies for diseases linked to old age.

Richard Walker who is a professor at the University of South Florida School of Medicine, who is leading the research team said the following:

“We think that Brooke’s condition presents us with a unique opportunity to understand the process of ageing,”

“We think that she has a mutation in the genes that control her ageing and development so that she appears to have been frozen in time.

“If we can compare her genome to the normal version then we might be able to find those genes and see exactly what they do and how to control them.”

Mumbai attacks: Kasab should be hanged till death without any delay

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Hello Folks,

Remember Mumbai blast?? It was November 26, 2008 and the whole nation was disturbed and had sleepless nights…and lasted until 29 November, killing at least 173 people and wounding at least 308. While writing, the whole picture comes in my minds making things alive…

Yes,  it was Mohammed Ajmal Amir Kasab, who moved around the streets of South Mumbai and fired indiscriminately on Wednesday night (26 November, 2008), killing several people, he has no regrets!! He has hardly ever flinched during investigations. That’s because Kasab says the act will take him to “Jannat” as it was ordered by the almighty.  When he was under investigation he was asked whether he knew any verses from the Quran that described jihad, Ajmal Amir said he did not.  In fact he did not know much about Islam or its tenets. And you will be shocked he also said that if he was given regular meals and money he will do the same for anyone that he did for them (Pakistan).

Well, after several investigations, Ajmal Amir Kasab has been awarded death penalty on 6 May, 2010.  During the reading of the sentence, Kasab was downcast and did not look up. Why? Because he knows what he did and this is what his award for his so called job. Kasab deserves death penalty, he killed dozens of innocent people and if let alive for more days is still a threat and danger to humanity.  Kasab is a killing machine and a heartless monster who is a curse to the society. He not only enjoyed killing innocent people but also expressed anger while confessing before a Magistrate that he could not execute more, he had said in his arguments on the quantum of sentence for the convicted terrorist.

Even today, many parents and kids offering his prayers in Mumbai & are still in shocked and mentally disturbed. With the end of  Kasab, they may get some relief and justice for the lost. Death for Kasab will satisfy families of victims for sure.

Now, it’s the right time without any further delay, Monster Kasab should be hanged till death, time has come to raise our voice against terrorism and there should not be any delay in further process. Kasab was found guilty of murder, conspiracy, and of waging war against India. On May 6, he was sentenced to death by hanging.  Kasab should be hanged till death without any delay.  Our country’s security should be improved in such a way that these kind of brainless and shameless creatures should feel the fear of Indian Security Force!!

I am just waiting for the day when Kasab will be hanged. The day he will be hanged, I will be satisfied and all the victims will get justice.

Guys, What do you think about this Monster “Kasab”?

A crow attacked the squabs, one died

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As I wrote that few weeks ago, pigeons lay eggs in the flower pot of mine and both eggs hatched. However on inspection this morning one seems to be thriving, whereas the other one I can’t see. It was early morning and as usual, I went into my balcony to see the squabs in my flower pot hanging in the balcony and both of them were fine. After an hour, I saw a crow but as I was too busy I ignored and went to do my clutters.

In the afternoon, I went to see the squabs again and it was just one with her mother. Then I saw the flesh of the squabs scattered and painted with blood. I was shocked. I felt so hurt and bad and was depressed whole day.  Two weeks ago I saw flower pot with two squabs and now it is just one! A crow might have attacked the young pigeon i.e. squab  in the flower pot when the adult pigeon was not there. I remember, the crow has come in the morning and when she saw the small bird, she was instantly after it. Couldn’t resist. May be that crow has attacked the squabs and one of them fall down and the crow ate him and left over the blood and feathers all in the balcony floor.

When the squabs were hatched, we use to enjoy each day, their shouting and screaming all.  But today, it was the most saddest moment..I always thought that pigeons & crows were carrion feeders, and have never seen either bird attacking live prey before. Is such an attack normal?

Now I think it would be best to remove it from the balcony floor. It may draw ants or flies which could attack or harm the living squab. I wish the parents could remove a dead chick if they could, but usually it is too heavy for the adults to handle and they end up leaving it there..so it would better to clean up.  I will clean up the dead squab left over flesh today. The male pigeon returned to the nest immediately to protect the live squab (phew and yay!). I was happy to see that and wish at least the other one survive.